​THE PLANK IN MY EYE (2 minute Read)

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in our brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?  Matthew 7:3 NIV

So I have had these words stuck in my head all week “The Plank In My Eye” , it’s pretty obvious what this post should be about. Ok! let’s take a walk down the corridor of criticism, hypocrisy and being judgmental. 

Someone once said we are repelled by the things we see in others because they are somehow a part of ourselves that we dislike or are trying to repress, this might not be true in all cases but I have heard gossips say things like I know I gossip but that girl’s own level of gossiping is too much. 

The truth is according to the bible a little gossip is as sinful as a lot of gossiping unfortunately these things happen in the church where a group of gossips are gossiping about the church gossip ironic right.

“He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone”. John 8:7 

Aside doing the same thing we consider offensive in others remember when Jesus defended the woman accused of adultery in his own way, he reminded the people that they too had different sins in their lives.

You might not commit adultery or fornication but that doesn’t let you off the hook of sin whether it’s having bouts of temper ,unforgiveness, laziness, stinginess or greediness as far as they are contrary to what the word of God expects of  us as Christians, it is a sin and no different from fornication, adultery or murder.

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 1 John 1:8 NIV

God is continually refining us and we all are at different learning curves in our relationship with God, I was listening to a sermon sometimes ago when the preacher said he just found out something he had be doing for years that he considered harmless was actually a sin, he actually was very remorseful about it and thanked God that he shed light to that part of his life that needed change.
Change is a progress and that is why God guides us poco a poco so as not to overwhelm us, we should do the same, give that neighbor of yours a break maybe they are at a point in their lives where they are still learning. Even in the house of God, the church should show grace to one another.

God is shedding light on areas of our lives that need improvement or pruning off, he is doing the same for all believers. So just because a believer is struggling in an area you have conquered doesn’t make you better than them. Show grace at all times, encourage one another and most importantly we should love one another.

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9 Reasons Why You Hate Exercise

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Are you  tired of telling yourself, you are going to exercise and then you end up not doing it. Well you can stop feeling guilty, this is not a guilt trip post.  This post covers top 9 reasons why you hardly exercise.


(1)Like all good things exercise takes self-discipline and commitment.

Self-discipline and commitment are necessary when it comes to keeping to an exercise regimen whether it’s once a week or on a daily basis, sticking to a particular routine can sometimes seem like too much work.

(2) You are lazy when it comes to physical activity.

You would rather consider climbing the stairs in your house as exercise or just imagine yourself exercising without actually doing it.

(3)You have a busy schedule.

You are a workaholic and consider exercise of any sort as a waste of time.

(4) You like sleep and can’t imagine waking up early in the morning just to exercise.

You love to hit the snooze button when you alarm rings and continue sleeping even after you promised yourself you would exercise that morning.

 


(5) You feel it is only meant for people who want to lose weight.

You think only fat people and models should exercise.

(6) Your body aches after exercising.

After the first day of exercise your body felt like it has being doing manual labor and you swore never to exercise again.

(7) You picked the wrong work out.

You saw this great exercise routine on YouTube and decided you were going to try it out, didn’t work for you and now you don’t believe in exercising.

(8) You overdo it.

So you made up your mind to exercise and on the first day you worked out for 3 hours, now exercising seems like a draining task.

(9) You feel it cost too much money.

You decided to register in a gym but their prices were above your budget.

Exercising takes commitment but you don’t have to take it as one serious task or something that only athletes or serious minded people do. Personally I never really liked exercise until I was gingered (i.e. motivated) by a friend to start jogging.

 

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This is a form of exercise I actually enjoy I decided to take exercise in short strides, I started with just 30 minutes of jogging daily I also set a time frame for two weeks in which i would jog consistently, I did this so as not to put pressure on myself. Sincerely it was painful at first as all my body felt sore but as I got used to it, it became enjoyable and I looked forward to exercising every day.

If you are lazy about exercise you may need to enlist the services of a Personal Trainer to motivate you and keep you on track. You can also find friends who are interested in exercising and you can motivate each other to exercise daily.

Some people are just too busy to exercise on a daily basis, being a career person, a student with a huge work load or a single mother with little kids to raise doesn’t really give you any time to think of exercise or even actually doing it.

 

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If you are one of such people who are too busy to exercise daily make good use of your weekend. You can enroll in a gym or a sports club this way you still get to unwind and reap the benefits of exercising.

When it comes to exercising you don’t have to break the bank, some sports club or gyms are quite expensive but there are lots of them that are also quite affordable, look for one that is within you budget and register. Also exercising doesn’t have to cost anything going for a jog, run,walk or skipping cost little or nothing at all.

Everyone likes to sleep in a few hours extra, so getting out of bed early in the morning to exercise might seem like a lot of work.  I do it sometimes, there are days I literally have to give myself a pep talk on why I should get out of bed and when I finally do I have to drag myself to exercise but each time I do, it’s always worth it.

 

Exercising is not just meant for those who want to lose weight. As part of healthy living, regular exercise is advised as it keeps you strong and healthy physically and mentally.

I know most people already know the health benefits of exercise, aside avoiding complicated health conditions here are a few other reasons why you should start exercising today.

 

5 Reasons why you should love exercise.

  • Keeps you fit
  • Increases blood flow to all parts of your body giving you a healthy glow
  • Gives you drive and purpose
  • Lifts your mood
  • Helps you lose excess weight


NB: If you have a heart condition or breathing problems such as asthma, I would advise you to avoid strenuous exercise and also consult with a health care worker so as to know what forms of exercise are safe and still beneficial for you to practice.

Living a sedentary lifestyle is bad for your health; you need to start seeing exercise as fun and a necessity for your wellbeing make a decision to start exercising today.

 

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ONE MORE MILE (1 Minute Read)

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​Though it breaks my back, I will go one more mile, because at the end of every dark tunnel there is light. I will go one more mile because after every storm there is calmness.

Sometimes I wonder how the Israelites felt going round and round for 40 years on a journey that should have taken 40 days, or how joseph felt when he was imprisoned for five years. I keep wondering how slaves must have felt in the days of darkness and bondage. There is modern day slavery, you could be a slave to the things of these worlds striving for them but never having enough. You could be a slave to fear, lack, poverty, sickness etc.

It might seem like we have been in a situation for far too long and we want to throw in the towel. In our darkest moments we must choose to forge ahead whether in sickness, failure or want we must bear in mind that strength is internal not external how else can we explain how a man who has been given six months to live surpasses the time limit he was given. We must choose to go one more mile.

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THE ABUNDANCE MENTALITY


‘Have a Mentality of Abundance, we don’t work in vain. Faith is the key to success’ Julia Cameron



Looking back over the years of struggle as an entrepreneur, I have come to realize that it is not the lack you see around you that propels you forward but the abundance around and within you that causes you to do more and achieve success.

 Lack can be an obstacle but it is how the mind perceives lack that determines productivity. In every circumstance you find yourself there is always an abundance of opportunity. For the struggling entrepreneur a lack of adequate funds and support is an opportunity to be resourceful.

Having faith establishes an atmosphere in which creativity flourishes’. Julia Cameron

Abundance is often quantified in terms of wealth and material possession, but what about skill, talent and knowledge these are commodities that can be transformed into wealth given the right opportunity. Many world and business leaders today came from obscure and poor backgrounds, but they pushed against the lack in their lives and strived until they had breakthroughs in their various enterprise.

‘If you have talent, devotion and plenty of perseverance, does that mean prosperity in some form is inevitable? Yes. Julia Cameron

So today friends irrespective of what you think is lacking in your life get up, get busy, get working with an abundance mentality and blocked ways will pave for you, locked doors will open for you.

Confrontation, The Who & How ?

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Arguments have been a vivid part of humanity since the beginning of the world. Dispute is a common thing among individuals, families, countries etc. This post is not going talk about wars, and using nuclear devices as a form of making a point to an opposition. It’s about how to get along with the people in our lives.

For most introverted people confrontation can be a nightmare, they believe that confronting people puts them in a bad position and makes them look stupid or weak as they might not win the debate or argument.

Here is a list of five people you should not be afraid to confront, when the need arises

THE BULLY

Even bullies have been bullied at one time or the other, the thing with bullies is that, these are people who intentionally want you to be afraid of them, some of them might get physical and hit you (you should tell someone or an authority if someone abuses you physically) but the key to overcoming a bully is to confront them despite the fact that they might be bigger or more vocal than you. If you cower when they maltreat you it only makes it worse. If you need help overcoming a bully, get help irrespective of what people around you are saying.

Having attended a boarding school I have seen bullying in different forms anybody can be a bully you classmate, seniors even a teacher can be a bully. Back in school we had a tradition that if a senior student bullies you and you report to any school authority it means you were weak, well guess what? A senior tried to make my life miserable in school at first I wouldn’t report because I didn’t want to look weak but with the encouragement of my friends I spoke up and reported to my hostel mistress and the senior was called to order, of course several people mocked me but  I had peace of mind and was able to face my education. Whether you are a house wife facing domestic violence or a student being beaten up in school, no one has the right to turn you into a punching bag. You need to speak up.

THE OVERBEARING PARENT

As an individual your parents are one of the most respected people in your life but your desire not to offend them might be ruining yours. Some parents want to dictate every single move of their offspring’s life, now this is for people who are over 18 once you clock the legal age parents should reduce their grip on the reins of parenthood and allow their children make decisions for themselves. It is not easy to openly say no to your parents especially if you come from a traditional African home without fear of being disowned by them. But at some point you need to establish some boundaries.

If a country thinks an individual is old enough to vote a president into office, then parents should be able to allow their children make their own choices, a man at thirty should not be having sleepless nights over who he wants to marry because his parents object to it, if they feel his choice is not good enough they should make their objections known and if he still insist on marrying the person they should let him be.  If as a husband your mother comes to your house and critics virtually everything your wife does, you need to confront her and let her know she is crossing a boundary. Fathers could be overbearing too especially a father-in-law who probably feels no one is good enough for his baby girl.

The Friend

We all have that friend we admire a lot, for most introverts they tend to tiptoe around their friends, they cannot tell their friends the truth because they are afraid they might hurt their friend’s feelings and if offended they do not speak out. The thing with friendship is that even if you are friends with the perfect human being (shares the same interest as you, believes in the same things as you) at some point you would disagree on something, this is just basic humanity. If a friend does something that hurts your feelings you need to tell them and if they are the defensive type confront them and make a stand. If someone truly wants to be your friend irrespective of what you say to them as far as your intentions are good they will remain friends with you.

 

THE INTIMIDATING BOSS

If your boss is an egotistic, happiness sucking individual, possibly a sociopath, one who derives pleasure in seeing you suffer. Be it sexual harassment or verbal abuse if your boss maltreats you, you need to speak up. In the end if they are not irrational individuals they will have great respect for you because they know you are not a push over. The downside of it is that you might need to get a new job.

 

THE NAGGING WIFE OR HUSBAND

Pain is an evolutionary tool, it teaches us what to avoid in order to  be safe and improve ourselves, in intimate relationships pain that comes with having arguments (not at all times) is necessary as it teaches us what our partner does not like and helps us make adjustments to meet their needs.  But some people are in parasitic relationships where they have no voice the husband or wife is alpha and omega, does no wrong and takes offence a lot. Well if you are in such a relationship instead of keeping silent, speak up and tell your partner how you feel, if you don’t ,you will feel miserable and possibly be depressed.

Steps to successfully confront someone

  • Emotions are very powerfully especially anger, before confronting someone evaluate what you are feeling at that moment.
  • If you are angry, allow your anger to subside before you confront the person. This gives you a clear logical mindset to evaluate your reaction and the person’s reaction to you.
  • Decide on the things you want to say and how you will say it.
  • Remember confrontation is not about putting the other person down or insulting the other person. So choice your words deliberately and wisely.
  • Bear in mind that the person you are confronting might get defensive, so be prepared to stand your ground.

 

Confrontations helps to create healthy boundaries in relationships and it improves your decision making abilities because you can stand up for your-self and others around you.

Some of the greatest heroes in the world had to confront people who unfairly treated others not through violence but through dialogue and in most cases they won.

 

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SIX WAYS TO OVERCOME LAZINESS

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Laziness for most people is a serious problem, everyone wants to be a high achiever but are you really willing to pay the price for success, are you willing to do the time required to achieve excellence in whatever field you are in

“Luck is always the last refuge of laziness and incompetence.”  James Cash Penney

I know some people get lucky and win lotto’s or get a big break despite the fact that they are not driven people or hard workers but if those people are not careful they hardly maintain their success.

“There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living.” David Starr Jordan

Having dreams and talking about them is not enough to be successful, you have got to walk the talk if you want to see results.

But what does it really take to be lazy; here is my checklist for being lazy.

  • Sleeps a lot.
  • Procrastinates a lot.
  • Easily discouraged.
  • Lacks motivation and drive.
  • Buys new clothes instead of washing dirty clothes.
  • Buys take out instead of cooking a healthy meal.
  • Your idea of cleaning your apartment is throwing out everything.
  • Imagining yourself exercising instead of actually doing it.
  • Hardly meets deadlines (for assignments, projects, Bills etc.)

 

Sometimes we might just be lazy about things that do not interest us like doing your laundry, cooking, working out.

Effects of laziness

  • Under-achievement (personal or professional)

“We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas A. Edison

If you are lazy about work or your personal growth, chances are that you would end up at the bottom of the food chain. It takes conscious effort and commitment to make progress in any field in life, even if you sell vegetables in the market, you can become a successful vegetable seller by being committed to your trade, customers and yourself. Always aim to be relevant and of value wherever you find yourself.

 

  • Obesity

“Whenever I feel the need to exercise, I lie down until it goes away.”  Paul Terry

Are you lazy about working out, cooking healthy meals, and getting out of bed? I have bad news for you; you are at risk from becoming obese from these unhealthy habits. Working out regularly and being conscious about the kinds of food or drinks you consume could save your life from not only obesity but other non-communicable diseases such as hypertension and diabetics.

  • Depression and self-loathing

       “Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction.” Anne Frank.

Believe it or not just like alcoholics and drug addicts hate themselves for the way they are, laziness could bring depressive and self- hate characteristics(majorly in cases of extreme laziness).These could result from not doing much with your life, not having drive or motivation to pursue your dreams.

  • Innovation

“I will Always choose a lazy person to do a difficult job, Because he will find an easy way to do it.” Bill Gates

As with every other thing in life there is nothing with disadvantages without at least one advantage. Lazy people have been known to invent thing that make accomplishing tasks much easier.

Here are 6 ways to overcome Laziness

  1. Start: irrespective of how overwhelming your workload, projects or assignment might seem, the first step towards overcoming laziness is to find the courage to start and all other things will fall in place.

 

  1. Do your work in bits: Take your time, spread whatever you need to do so you don’t get discouraged, Take for example if you have a lot of laundry to do, you could divide the clothes into two or three places and do them on separate days.

 

  1. Set Goals: This is extremely helpful, as it will keep you grounded if you are committed to the goals you set. Set goals should come with a time frame for example, A goal to lose 2kg within 2 weeks of exercising, they should also be realistic so you dont wear yourself out.

 

  1. Stay motivated: Don’t give up easily, many people have failed and still became successful in their chosen field, I know its cliché to say life is full of ups and down but really, don’t let one or several disappointments prevent you from pursuing your dreams.

 

  1. Give yourself little rewards: Give your-self rewards for achieving even the smallest task e.g. washing the dishes, meeting the deadline for submission of an assignment etc. This will keep you motivated.

 

  1. Don’t be hard on yourself: In my experience, comparing your-self to others could often bring feelings of laziness. When you realize you are not as good as the next individual at something, you could respond in two ways either by pushing harder to be better or by not even trying at all.

Laziness is like a self-destruct button, as much as possible try to stay motivated and regardless of whatever happens never lose hope just keep moving forward.

Note: Sometimes we could shift into lazy mood when we are burnout or overworked, in this case I believe its ok to lay back and relax.

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10 Bible Scriptures to Securing Your Future

Scared of the future? You are not alone, many people wonder what the future has in store for them even if they have a ten year plan drafted about their lives they know very well that this plans can go array leaving them devastated and sometimes unable to move forward. But as Christians we are called to live a life of faith. Here are 10 scriptures to secure your future in Christ.

 

1) Hold on to God’s word; remember perfect love casted out fear (1John4:18):

For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. God’s love is so rich that he sacrificed his only son to redeem us , so if you think God will deny you the good things of life, it means God values those things more than his son. Which is absolutely not true, God loves you and will move mountains to make sure you are well taken care of.

 

2) All things work together for the good of them that love God and are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28)

Irrespective of what is happening in your life, loss of a job, failure or rejection, God can use these events to transform our lives. And because of this knowledge we have the courage to face the future.

 

3) God has not given you the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind and an excellent spirit (2Timothy 1:7):

Fear can paralyze you from moving forward and that is why God implores us to leave fear behind and look to him. There are many scriptures that warn us about this disease called fear. Fear stops you from pursuing your God given purpose, fear of things not working out, fear of losing a loved one, fear of not being pleasing enough etc.

 

4) The thoughts God has towards you are good and not of evil to give you an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11):

God’s word has promised good for his children not bad, even people who are evil know how to give good gifts to their children, how much more your father in heaven who causes the rain and sun to pour and shine on the good and evil. The point is God has you covered.

 

5) Those who are led by God are called the sons of God ( Romans 8:14 ) :

Following God’s will for your life is very key to securing the future, there is a way known to man that leads to destruction. But God’s way leads to peace and life.

 

6) The just shall live by Faith (Habakkuk 2:4) :

Remember Abraham the guy who was counted righteous because he had faith in God, for without faith it is impossible to please God. As Christians we should live life trusting God on a daily basis to lead us to the right job, spouse, school etc. Once you have this in mind you are more confident about the future because God is your future.

 

7) Your father in heaven who provides for the birds of the air and the grass in the field, how much more you his beloved (Luke 12:22-26):

God provides for the birds of the air and the lilies in the field how much more you his beloved, in the food chain of living things according to God’s word we rank highest, so if God can cater for the smallest and most insignificant creatures, why would he forsake you who is created in his image and likeness.

 

8) You are seated with Christ in heavenly places ( Ephesians 2:6 ) :

If you are seated with Christ in heavenly places above difficulties and troubles in life then it’s going to get better at some point. Plus Christ is our intercessor; he is a high priest who is not unaware of our sufferings because he himself had to go through them.

 

9) You are the light of the world and the salt of the earth ( Matthew 5:3-16 ) :

If you are the light of the world and the salt of the earth surely the lord will uplift you in whatever endeavor you pursue (according to his will for your life). A light cannot be hidden neither salt tasteless.

 

10) Seek first the kingdom of God and every other thing will be added onto you (Matthew 6:33) :

Satisfaction comes from God not from people or material things, worried about your future? Seek God first; your future is in him.

 

These are promises from God’s word and they should be realities in our lives, irrespective of what we are going through. Even though it may seem like the future is bleak God’s word promises a bright future for his children. Look deep into the lives of those who had faith in God e.g. Joseph, Abraham, the Israelites when they were in captivity, David when he was fleeing from Saul. At first it looked like God had forgotten them but in the end he he enriched their lives.

 

N.B: Most of the bible passages in this post are paraphrased. For the full bible verse please refer to any version of the bible.

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