How Pain Helps Us Evolve

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.james1:2”

Pain is an excruciating feeling, there are different kinds of pain, the pain of watching a loved one battle with a chronic illness like cancer, the pain of failing after trying so hard, the pain of a break up or divorce. Some events carry more pain than others; pain has the ability to put the human spirit down but in the end if we can overcome them we come out victorious.

Watching an episode of one of my favorite TV series the Big Bang Theory one of the series character Sheldon cooper made an insightful statement “pain is evolutionary. Many people would testify that pain teaches us more things than we can hope for; people have risen from failure, poverty and all kinds of pain to become better people. Remember suffering also builds character

Like a little child learning what is good and bad, pain teaches even the immature what to avoid, imagine a child that touches a hot object and withdraws from the pain the child learns to not touch such object in future. Humans as a race have used disease outbreaks, famine and natural disasters to improve the choices they make and protect themselves from such disasters.

Even the bible teaches us to rejoice even in pain,

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.james1:2”
SIX WAYS PAIN HELPS PEOPLE EVOLVE

 

1) We have seen many artist perform better when they feel hurt, Taylor swift sings better songs each time she is heartbroken, same goes for Adele and many other successful artist

2) ln business adversity helps you become a better entrepreneur, you learn what risks to take and which ones to avoid.

3) In relationships no matter how painful breakups might be they tell us what we are doing wrong and how to adjust ourselves to become better partners.

4) In academics, failing a course can be devastating but if you stay strong and focused you would discover your areas of weakness and use it to improve yourself.

5) In personal growth, pain and suffering helps you become more aware of yourself and your environment.

6) In sports, athletics or anything worth pursuing in life the pain of failure and rejection has helped people realign their purpose and what matters most to them.

Pain is only useful as a tool towards success and personal development when it is channeled into positive energy but pain also has negative outcomes such as alcohol abuse, depression and anger. Life should be pleasing and full of joy but sometimes we face pain, sadness and rejection, what we chose to do with these feelings is what matters the most.

Stay blessed.

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​I WAS MADE FOR MORE!

For I know the thoughts I think towards you, thoughts of good and peace, not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11

I was made for more.

I   was made for more than acquiring luxury.

I was made for more than marriage.

I was made for more than obtaining degrees.

I was made for an assignment.

The creature earnestly awaits my manifestation.

I am a letter sent from heaven.

The world is eager to read me.

I will not be a closed, hidden letter.

I shall be read on the hills.

I shall illuminate my world.

I was made for a greater purpose.

I was made for more.

Five Ways Comparison Can Ruin Your Life.

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“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare everybody will respect you”  Lao Tzu

 

 

Comparison is a huge word these days, it is a killer of self-esteem and a doorway to depression here are five ways comparison can ruin your life.

 

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(1) Comparison can ruin your self-esteem

Usually when people are comparing themselves with others they usually make unfair comparisons, take for example when you feel bad because the girl or guy next door is better looking than you are, you forget that genetic makeup makes a person.  The fact that he or she  better looking than you doesn’t make you less desirable or less attractive it just means you should find what suits you in terms of clothes, hairdo etc. Wear a positive self-esteem and you would be just as attractive as the guy or girl next door. Many models have dropped out of modelling agencies, became addicted to drugs and alcohol because they couldn’t deal with the fact that another girl or girls could be more good looking than they are. Comparison makes you focus on being an exact copy of another individual instead of being a better version of yourself.

 

 

“Comparison is the death of joy”   Mark Twain

(2) Comparison is a joy killer

Unfair comparison is a joy killer a lot of people are in metal clinics because they compare themselves unrealistically with others, some go as far as comparing themselves with celebrities which is really unfair to themselves. If you open most social media pages especially a social media page like Instagram you would be depressed if you don’t have a positive self-esteem. There are flashy lifestyles being displayed on social media pages and you would be astonished at how many of them are unreal and staged. Aside social media, on a daily basis we see some of our friends and co-workers living expensive lifestyles and you are wondering where did I get it wrong, how come I don’t have as much money or drive the expensive cars these people drive. The truth is not all that glitters is gold this isn’t about hating or being envious, not everyone around you does legitimate businesses and even if they did, you should only be spurred to work harder by their success not sitting in one corner brooding over how everybody seems to have a better life than you do. 

 

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 (3) Comparison is a body changer

Now unfair comparison in this area has led some people to the cosmetic surgeon’s table and we all know the after effects of plastic surgery if the cosmetic surgeon gets the procedure wrong, you come out with worse looking features than your original features. Let’s talk about light skin for a bit, you know how people feel light skinned individuals are more attractive, some individuals have taken it upon themselves to play God with their skin color. They apply numerous cosmetic products that promise to lighten up their completion, personally I have seen this go south ways on many individuals who tried to change their completion by bleaching. Aside having skin burns and discoloration there is also cancer of the skin to consider.

 

 

(4) Comparison is a destiny changer

So people aren’t so confident of their decisions in life, comparison can lead to feelings of envy which then leads to doing whatever you think the other individual is doing. People get this from wanting to be like their friends, colleagues, classmates who is seemly better than them. If the a friend decides to enroll in a particular school they are off to apply for that same school. Has it ever occurred to you that we were all created to walk different paths some people’s path might seem more rewarding at the moment but if you are patient enough you would find out that yours is equaling rewarding and most importantly fulfilling because it was meant for you.

 

 

(5) Comparison gives the green Monster an open invite to your house.

My personal experience with comparison, early hours of one beautiful morning I woke up and checked my phone as usual, I had notifications from almost all my social media pages so I opened Instagram, scrolling through pictures and videos I came across a video of a classmate that had just gotten married. Sincerely that video was on point, you know how they shoot such videos they showed the bride, her dress, her shoes, how she was being made up, suddenly I didn’t feel so good this was not the first of such videos  I will be seeing on social media pages but for some reason this particularly video got to me. I wasn’t jealous of the bride but I just felt like all my mates had married except me which was totally untrue but thoughts just kept running through my head. To cut the long story short I was saved by words of wisdom from the various motivational speakers and Christian leaders I listen to. Your joy should not come from how well your life is in comparison to others but what God is saying and has said about you. You must always believe you are on the right tract irrespective of setbacks.

You are a unique individual with God given potentials focus more on improving yourself on a daily basis and less at what those around you are achieving.

 

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How to stop comparing yourself to others

  • Be content and grateful with whatever you have right now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work hard to have a good life.
  • Focus on your positive traits and talents.
  • Learn to be happy when good things happen to others.
  • Be self-aware; know what is right for you.
  • Most importantly love yourself.

 

​THE PLANK IN MY EYE (2 minute Read)

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in our brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?  Matthew 7:3 NIV

So I have had these words stuck in my head all week “The Plank In My Eye” , it’s pretty obvious what this post should be about. Ok! let’s take a walk down the corridor of criticism, hypocrisy and being judgmental. 

Someone once said we are repelled by the things we see in others because they are somehow a part of ourselves that we dislike or are trying to repress, this might not be true in all cases but I have heard gossips say things like I know I gossip but that girl’s own level of gossiping is too much. 

The truth is according to the bible a little gossip is as sinful as a lot of gossiping unfortunately these things happen in the church where a group of gossips are gossiping about the church gossip ironic right.

“He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone”. John 8:7 

Aside doing the same thing we consider offensive in others remember when Jesus defended the woman accused of adultery in his own way, he reminded the people that they too had different sins in their lives.

You might not commit adultery or fornication but that doesn’t let you off the hook of sin whether it’s having bouts of temper ,unforgiveness, laziness, stinginess or greediness as far as they are contrary to what the word of God expects of  us as Christians, it is a sin and no different from fornication, adultery or murder.

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 1 John 1:8 NIV

God is continually refining us and we all are at different learning curves in our relationship with God, I was listening to a sermon sometimes ago when the preacher said he just found out something he had be doing for years that he considered harmless was actually a sin, he actually was very remorseful about it and thanked God that he shed light to that part of his life that needed change.
Change is a progress and that is why God guides us poco a poco so as not to overwhelm us, we should do the same, give that neighbor of yours a break maybe they are at a point in their lives where they are still learning. Even in the house of God, the church should show grace to one another.

God is shedding light on areas of our lives that need improvement or pruning off, he is doing the same for all believers. So just because a believer is struggling in an area you have conquered doesn’t make you better than them. Show grace at all times, encourage one another and most importantly we should love one another.

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9 Reasons Why You Hate Exercise

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Are you  tired of telling yourself, you are going to exercise and then you end up not doing it. Well you can stop feeling guilty, this is not a guilt trip post.  This post covers top 9 reasons why you hardly exercise.


(1)Like all good things exercise takes self-discipline and commitment.

Self-discipline and commitment are necessary when it comes to keeping to an exercise regimen whether it’s once a week or on a daily basis, sticking to a particular routine can sometimes seem like too much work.

(2) You are lazy when it comes to physical activity.

You would rather consider climbing the stairs in your house as exercise or just imagine yourself exercising without actually doing it.

(3)You have a busy schedule.

You are a workaholic and consider exercise of any sort as a waste of time.

(4) You like sleep and can’t imagine waking up early in the morning just to exercise.

You love to hit the snooze button when you alarm rings and continue sleeping even after you promised yourself you would exercise that morning.

 


(5) You feel it is only meant for people who want to lose weight.

You think only fat people and models should exercise.

(6) Your body aches after exercising.

After the first day of exercise your body felt like it has being doing manual labor and you swore never to exercise again.

(7) You picked the wrong work out.

You saw this great exercise routine on YouTube and decided you were going to try it out, didn’t work for you and now you don’t believe in exercising.

(8) You overdo it.

So you made up your mind to exercise and on the first day you worked out for 3 hours, now exercising seems like a draining task.

(9) You feel it cost too much money.

You decided to register in a gym but their prices were above your budget.

Exercising takes commitment but you don’t have to take it as one serious task or something that only athletes or serious minded people do. Personally I never really liked exercise until I was gingered (i.e. motivated) by a friend to start jogging.

 

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This is a form of exercise I actually enjoy I decided to take exercise in short strides, I started with just 30 minutes of jogging daily I also set a time frame for two weeks in which i would jog consistently, I did this so as not to put pressure on myself. Sincerely it was painful at first as all my body felt sore but as I got used to it, it became enjoyable and I looked forward to exercising every day.

If you are lazy about exercise you may need to enlist the services of a Personal Trainer to motivate you and keep you on track. You can also find friends who are interested in exercising and you can motivate each other to exercise daily.

Some people are just too busy to exercise on a daily basis, being a career person, a student with a huge work load or a single mother with little kids to raise doesn’t really give you any time to think of exercise or even actually doing it.

 

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If you are one of such people who are too busy to exercise daily make good use of your weekend. You can enroll in a gym or a sports club this way you still get to unwind and reap the benefits of exercising.

When it comes to exercising you don’t have to break the bank, some sports club or gyms are quite expensive but there are lots of them that are also quite affordable, look for one that is within you budget and register. Also exercising doesn’t have to cost anything going for a jog, run,walk or skipping cost little or nothing at all.

Everyone likes to sleep in a few hours extra, so getting out of bed early in the morning to exercise might seem like a lot of work.  I do it sometimes, there are days I literally have to give myself a pep talk on why I should get out of bed and when I finally do I have to drag myself to exercise but each time I do, it’s always worth it.

 

Exercising is not just meant for those who want to lose weight. As part of healthy living, regular exercise is advised as it keeps you strong and healthy physically and mentally.

I know most people already know the health benefits of exercise, aside avoiding complicated health conditions here are a few other reasons why you should start exercising today.

 

5 Reasons why you should love exercise.

  • Keeps you fit
  • Increases blood flow to all parts of your body giving you a healthy glow
  • Gives you drive and purpose
  • Lifts your mood
  • Helps you lose excess weight


NB: If you have a heart condition or breathing problems such as asthma, I would advise you to avoid strenuous exercise and also consult with a health care worker so as to know what forms of exercise are safe and still beneficial for you to practice.

Living a sedentary lifestyle is bad for your health; you need to start seeing exercise as fun and a necessity for your wellbeing make a decision to start exercising today.

 

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