Gender Inequality or Equality ?

                         Is it really a man’s world? is gender equality really possible ? For years now gender inequality has been a sensitive issue, societies differ in their approach to this gift…

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Living in regret is such a prison because you’re virtually judging yourself.  You’re the architect of this prison.  And sadly this prison is conveniently located in your mind, which of …

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Ye judge after the flesh, I judge no man. John 8:15 Guilt, shame and remorse are not unusual feelings experienced by normal people when they feel they have done something wrong or are not acting in a reasonable way. For the average Joe you see on the street on the path to self-destruction, they know they are on a dangerous path so they really don’t need you to point fingers at them or whisper when they pass by you. People behave the way they do for a particular reason there are lots of damaged people out there who out of hurt, bitterness and rebellion go about like they don’t care. They are sarcastic, angry and difficult to get along with. But if you take time to get to know them you will find out they are just sad people in need of love and affirmation. What are our responsibilities to such people whether they are loved ones, co-workers or neighbors: Here are 5 ways to deal with being judgemental towards others. LOVE Unconditional love has always been one of the best ways to show


10 Ways to Recognize Depression







Mental health has been overlooked by many cultures; people do not believe depression is a serious condition until they have experienced it themselves or have watched their loved ones suffer from depression. What exactly is depression?
Depression is a change in the mood of an individual expressed by feelings of sadness, despair or helplessness it is also known as complicated grieving over events that have happened in the life of an individual be it loss of a loved one, loss of job or heartbreak in a relationship.


In other to live a productive life positive coping mechanisms have to be put in place in other to overcome challenges that life brings across our paths. The thing about depression like any other psychiatric disorder is that once diagnosed, you will be placed on medications for life in other to avoid a relapse.

Here are 10 ways to recognize depression in yourself or a loved one

Remember the last time you were sad or disappointed, am sure food was the last thing on your mind thats why in individuals diagnosed with depression the desire for nutrition is reduced, this is seen by a significant amount of weight loss in the individual. Although in individuals who stress eat when experiencing depression they tend to get obsess as they try to use excessive eating as a coping mechanism.

Even with mild forms of anxiety like the ones experienced when preparing for an important exam or going for a job interview, a little insomnia (lack of sleep) might be experienced. In the depressed individual the sleep pattern is disturbed, they might wake up at frequent intervals at night or lack sleep totally. While some individuals just can’t get out of bed, they use sleep as a route of escape from the reality of their problems.











This is common in major cases of depression; there is decrease in drive and pursuit of goals and dreams. Even carrying out activities of daily living such as bathing, brushing, changing of bed linens etc. becomes a problem for this individual.

With decreased motivation comes, decreased desire to socialize and gain social support from others because most times the depressed individual feels helpless. You would see a decline in attendance to family gatherings, religious gatherings or social events the individual will ordinary go to. At home the depressed individual likes to be locked in their room all day and would request to be left alone despite efforts of family and friends to engage them in fun activities.


Concentration and making decisions becomes a problem for individuals experiencing depression, there is loss of focus in carrying out a task whether at work or at home. There is also forgetfulness or mild memory loss.


This is an advanced form of low self-esteem the individual feels they have no value, even if they hold important positions in the society. It could also be followed by suicidal statements such as what I am living for. Sadly we have seen celebrities and people who we perceived as happy until they committed suicide because they were depressed.

Feelings of guilt is experienced in major depressive disorders and is usually associated with feelings of worthlessness, you find these individuals sometimes tearing up and asking for forgiveness even when they haven’t done anything wrong.

I know selected mutism is associated with social anxiety but in clinical depression, some individuals express mutism. When addressed they refuse to respond to questions being asked.

People exhibit escapist behaviors for different reasons, a major reason is depression. Alcoholism, substance abuse, gambling and reckless sex with multiple partners are just few of the examples of self-destructive behaviors expressed by people with depression. The basic idea is to replace pain with a more pleasurable experience no matter the health cost of that experience.

This is only seen in severe depressive disorders, it could be auditory or visual, it includes hearing voices or seeing things that are not real. Delusions on the other hand are false beliefs, in most depressive disorders delusions are persecutory, the individual believes the they might be harmed by those around them.

You can read my post on OVERCOMING DEPRESSION


10 Characteristics of Successful Entrepreneurs (3 min read) — The Millionaire’s Digest

1. They do what they enjoy. What you get out of your business in the form of personal satisfaction, financial gain, stability and enjoyment will be the sum of what you put into your business. So if you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, in all likelihood it’s safe to assume that will be reflected in the success […]

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Sometimes I wonder why I learn something and after a while of trying to incorporate it into my life I give up. I realized that to win in life persistence is necessary. You have to constantly renew you minds with positive thoughts. I attend  seminars and read several self-help books on determination, discipline, emotional stability etc. but somehow each time I hit a road block in practicing what I have learnt I give up and say these things are only realistic in books, cliché right?




They say change is the only constant thing in life, whether we like it or not as the years go by change occurs in our lives from changes in our attitude towards life, to changes in how we relate with the people around us, change must occur. It is left for the individual to change positively or negatively.

Growing physically, emotionally and mentally can be hard as it takes conscious investment of time, money etc. There are many people who would love to change the way they live, exercise more, lose weight, read more, be more ambitious and effecient at work but what we don’t know is change can be hard and  will always meet a resistance. Take for example when trying to start a healthy lifestyle practice like exercising, your body resist this new change, you feel pain and aches in your joints and muscles. If you persist despite the pain in one to two weeks depending on your body you get accustomed to the pain or you don’t feel it at all.



In pursuing goals in entrepreneurship you need to take some risk, step out and try some new things. Taking risk doesn’t necessarily have to involve billions of dollars rather it’s about stepping out in courage and seeing opportunities where others see road blocks.

I once started a business in my environment though it seemed at first that the possible market for the product was non-existent .I went ahead and started the business with fingers crossed and money that I had invested at stake, I started telling people about the product and to my amazement to response was   incredible and I made a lot of profit from that venture till date the product is still in high demand.

Being an entrepreneur takes faith in yourself and what you believe in. During the time I encountered several challenges like people who didn’t like the product, critics who felt the business would flop.

Here are:


  1. Write down your beliefs on a board or a journal, it is said that writing goals and ambitions down makes you more likely to work towards them.
  2. Whenever you meet a resistance, always go back to you board or journal.
  3. Do not accept defeat easily, persistence is key.
  4. Attitude is everything. Your attitude towards the events that occur in your life matter more than you think. A positive attitude can change the outcome of a bad event.
  5. Surround yourself with people who believe in the same things as you e.g. In trying to be better at saving money surrounding yourself with people who are prudent about spending money and who you are accounted to, it will keep you grounded.
  6. Expect that there will be down days and there will be days of victory
  7. Don’t put pressure on yourself, in whatever you do move at your own pace (except when there is a deadline)
  8. Re-evaluate your goals and ambitions from time to time, this allows you to see how well you are doing and where you need to make adjustments.

The mind is a very powerful tool, as much as possible discipline yourself to think only positive thoughts.

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