Five Ways Comparison Can Ruin Your Life.

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“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare everybody will respect you”  Lao Tzu

 

 

Comparison is a huge word these days, it is a killer of self-esteem and a doorway to depression here are five ways comparison can ruin your life.

 

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(1) Comparison can ruin your self-esteem

Usually when people are comparing themselves with others they usually make unfair comparisons, take for example when you feel bad because the girl or guy next door is better looking than you are, you forget that genetic makeup makes a person.  The fact that he or she  better looking than you doesn’t make you less desirable or less attractive it just means you should find what suits you in terms of clothes, hairdo etc. Wear a positive self-esteem and you would be just as attractive as the guy or girl next door. Many models have dropped out of modelling agencies, became addicted to drugs and alcohol because they couldn’t deal with the fact that another girl or girls could be more good looking than they are. Comparison makes you focus on being an exact copy of another individual instead of being a better version of yourself.

 

 

“Comparison is the death of joy”   Mark Twain

(2) Comparison is a joy killer

Unfair comparison is a joy killer a lot of people are in metal clinics because they compare themselves unrealistically with others, some go as far as comparing themselves with celebrities which is really unfair to themselves. If you open most social media pages especially a social media page like Instagram you would be depressed if you don’t have a positive self-esteem. There are flashy lifestyles being displayed on social media pages and you would be astonished at how many of them are unreal and staged. Aside social media, on a daily basis we see some of our friends and co-workers living expensive lifestyles and you are wondering where did I get it wrong, how come I don’t have as much money or drive the expensive cars these people drive. The truth is not all that glitters is gold this isn’t about hating or being envious, not everyone around you does legitimate businesses and even if they did, you should only be spurred to work harder by their success not sitting in one corner brooding over how everybody seems to have a better life than you do. 

 

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 (3) Comparison is a body changer

Now unfair comparison in this area has led some people to the cosmetic surgeon’s table and we all know the after effects of plastic surgery if the cosmetic surgeon gets the procedure wrong, you come out with worse looking features than your original features. Let’s talk about light skin for a bit, you know how people feel light skinned individuals are more attractive, some individuals have taken it upon themselves to play God with their skin color. They apply numerous cosmetic products that promise to lighten up their completion, personally I have seen this go south ways on many individuals who tried to change their completion by bleaching. Aside having skin burns and discoloration there is also cancer of the skin to consider.

 

 

(4) Comparison is a destiny changer

So people aren’t so confident of their decisions in life, comparison can lead to feelings of envy which then leads to doing whatever you think the other individual is doing. People get this from wanting to be like their friends, colleagues, classmates who is seemly better than them. If the a friend decides to enroll in a particular school they are off to apply for that same school. Has it ever occurred to you that we were all created to walk different paths some people’s path might seem more rewarding at the moment but if you are patient enough you would find out that yours is equaling rewarding and most importantly fulfilling because it was meant for you.

 

 

(5) Comparison gives the green Monster an open invite to your house.

My personal experience with comparison, early hours of one beautiful morning I woke up and checked my phone as usual, I had notifications from almost all my social media pages so I opened Instagram, scrolling through pictures and videos I came across a video of a classmate that had just gotten married. Sincerely that video was on point, you know how they shoot such videos they showed the bride, her dress, her shoes, how she was being made up, suddenly I didn’t feel so good this was not the first of such videos  I will be seeing on social media pages but for some reason this particularly video got to me. I wasn’t jealous of the bride but I just felt like all my mates had married except me which was totally untrue but thoughts just kept running through my head. To cut the long story short I was saved by words of wisdom from the various motivational speakers and Christian leaders I listen to. Your joy should not come from how well your life is in comparison to others but what God is saying and has said about you. You must always believe you are on the right tract irrespective of setbacks.

You are a unique individual with God given potentials focus more on improving yourself on a daily basis and less at what those around you are achieving.

 

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How to stop comparing yourself to others

  • Be content and grateful with whatever you have right now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work hard to have a good life.
  • Focus on your positive traits and talents.
  • Learn to be happy when good things happen to others.
  • Be self-aware; know what is right for you.
  • Most importantly love yourself.

 

Are you a perfectionist?

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I used to be a perfectionist always wanting to get everything right, I wanted to be good at anything I was doing, not just being good at it but being the best at it. I wanted to always come top of the class and anything less than that made me depressed, I always push myself to accomplish a lot, little did I know I was making myself unhappy, all that competition made me feel less than I was, inadequate and insecure. Although people praised me for my achievements, I wanted more accomplishments, more praise and approval from people.

A perfectionist wants every aspect of his or her life to be perfect, their relationships have to be perfect hence they find it hard to accept that people have flaws and should be tolerated, being perfect means you want things to come out excellent but you can’t expect this of every individual…

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12 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD EAT GOLDEN MELON

 

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The first time I came across golden melon was when a pharmacy student  who was a friend of mine was using it for her school project, I wondered what kind of fruit it was, it looked like a grape at first appearance but on cutting it open it had this milky look about it, I love the fragrance of the seeds it reminds me of bananas. Anyway when I tasted it I was hooked and from then on, I have been incorporating it in my fruit salad. Aside its great taste, golden melon has a lot of health benefits as it is rich in a lot of vitamins and minerals.

Here are 12 Health Benefits of Golden Melon

 (1) Just like water melon, golden melon contains about 90%  water and is good for hydrating the body system which in turn gives you a healthy glow.

(2) Golden melon is ideal for with weight loss as it is only contains 60 calories per cup.

(3) Golden melon contains copper which helps in skin regeneration which leaves your skin shinning and supple.

(4) Golden melon contains Potassium which helps to decrease high blood pressure.

(5) It contains folic acid which promotes fetal health, making it ideal for preconception care.

(6) It is rich in vitamin C which boosts the immune system and prevents you from coming down with infections.

(7) Golden melon Protects eyesight, it contains an antioxidant Zeaxanthin which protects the macular of the eye.

(8) Golden melon prevents constipation, it is in rich fiber which is known to ease constipation and also reduces the risk of colon cancer.

(9) It is a source of B vitamins- Thiamin and Niacin; these are important anti-oxidants that keep your system toxin free.

(10) Golden melon contains no Carbohydrates and zero cholesterol which means diabetic and hypertensive patients can enjoy it as well.

(11) Golden melon contains calcium; a mineral which is important for building healthy bones and teeth.

(12) Golden melon helps to prevent Anemia, it is rich in folate which is required in the production of red blood cells in our body; consumption of Golden melon will therefore help in the prevention of anemia.

N:B Picking golden melon at the market has been like lotto lottery for me, sometimes i hit the mark and get really tasty ones while sometimes they are not so delicious, am sure i will get the hang of picking the really sweet ones very soon. But if you pick one that is bland and not so tasty don’t give up they are not all like that.

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​THE 48 LAWS OF POWER (Book Review)

 

Power has always been one of the most craved commodities throughout history from the cave man to the screen swiping man. Time has not depleted man’s thirst for power. Robert Greene the author of the book  “The 48 Laws of Power” doesn’t just give us a peek into the minds of some of the most powerful people in history, he is generous and explicit about the workings of  the canny , intelligent, ruthless and crafty minds of this  great men  and women . The book has a rich cultural diversity as the author regales the reader with stories from different parts of the world.

 

 

Sincerely when I first saw the book the title alone put me off, it sounded like a book for power crazy people who only seek to control and manipulate others. But soon enough my perspective changed and I decided it would be good to equip myself with this knowledge. Human behavior is complex and sometimes unpredictable; as I read the book I began to understand the behavior of those around me in relation to power and manipulation and most importantly the motives behind those behaviors.

 

 

CAUTION

Be mindful how you use the information in this book, it’s quite unfortunate that good folks might be skeptical about the book and not read it. I beg you! open your mind and equip yourself while still holding on to your core values, use it as a defense because while you ignore books like the 48 laws of power, someone out there is not only reading The 48 Laws of Power but also developing strategies to outwit and outsmart you.

 

People who need to read this book

EVERYONE

People in politics, Civil servants, Corporate executives, Entrepreneurs, Anyone in people service (Nurses, sales men etc), Religious leaders.

 

EXCERPTS FROM THE BOOK

 

LAW 1: “NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER”

Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite that is inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

 

 

LAW 4: “ALWAYS SAY LESS THAN NECESSARY”

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say the more common you appear and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it would seem more original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

 

 

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