What would you do if you weren’t Afraid?

Fear doesn’t have to stop you from becoming the awesome person you know you can be
Find out why in this daring post


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 I used to be so afraid of so many things, but i was especially afraid of making a fool out of myself when trying something new and being ridiculed in public for not getting something right. In school i never looked forward to class presentations because it came with a lot of anxiety for me. I was practically petrified of public speaking. When it was my turn to present, i will stutter all through the presentation even if I had mastered the topic, I was always filled with self-loathing after each presentation.

There I was, facing a class of less than 50 students with a lecturer who I know, isn’t going to bite me yet I was still afraid. I admired other colleagues who were saying rubbish or had not mastered the presentation but still presented with an air of confidence even if the lecturer criticized everything they…

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Reflections of a Man By Amari Soul (Book Review)

In a world of false assumptions, lies, deceit and the crushing desire to be loved, author Amari soul exposes the hearts of men and their likely intentions towards the women in them. This book is insightful and a must read for both single and married women.

The book has a unique blend of earthly wisdom and emotional intelligence that will help today’s woman to navigate the world of men.

Here are  ten of my favourite Quotes from the books

1) “One of the most frustrating positions you, as a good woman, could ever find yourself in, is in a relationship with a man who makes you feel like you’re still single.”

2) “Some of you will fall asleep tonight and dream of what it would be like to be truly loved, then wake up in the morning and choose to waste your time on a man you know doesn’t love you.”

3) “One of the hardest things you’ll ever try to do is continue to love someone you no longer respect.”

4) Some of you are more “in love” with the idea of “being in love” than you are “in love” with the person you are with.

5) “What hurts you the most is not the fact that it’s over, but rather that you chose to waste your time with him in the first place.”

6) “When your love is real, it’s hard to just stop loving someone…even after they’ve proven to you over and over again that they don’t deserve your love.”

7) “When a strong woman finally gives up, it’s not because she‘s weak or because she no longer loves her man. To put it in the simplest terms…she’s just tired. She’s tired of the games… she’s tired of the sleepless nights…she’s tired of feeling like she’s all alone and the only one trying… she’s tired.”

8) “The reality is that sometimes, it takes more strength to let go than it does to keep holding on.”

9) You just have to say to yourself, “I’m not willing to accept anything less than what I deserve! I am smart! I am beautiful! I am a good woman, and I deserve to be happy!” It all starts with you.

10) Why settle for being a “side” or a “main” when there is a good man out there waiting to make you his “only.”

Where to get the book, Amazon.com, Goodreads, Bookshops or any other Online store.

If you have read the book please share your insight about the book with us by leaving a comment.




The first time I came across golden melon was when a pharmacy student  who was a friend of mine was using it for her school project, I wondered what kind of fruit it was, it looked like a grape at first appearance but on cutting it open it had this milky look about it, I love the fragrance of the seeds it reminds me of bananas. Anyway when I tasted it I was hooked and from then on, I have been incorporating it in my fruit salad. Aside its great taste, golden melon has a lot of health benefits as it is rich in a lot of vitamins and minerals.

Here are 12 Health Benefits of Golden Melon

 (1) Just like water melon, golden melon contains about 90%  water and is good for hydrating the body system which in turn gives you a healthy glow.

(2) Golden melon is ideal for with weight loss as it is only contains 60 calories per cup.

(3) Golden melon contains copper which helps in skin regeneration which leaves your skin shinning and supple.

(4) Golden melon contains Potassium which helps to decrease high blood pressure.

(5) It contains folic acid which promotes fetal health, making it ideal for preconception care.

(6) It is rich in vitamin C which boosts the immune system and prevents you from coming down with infections.

(7) Golden melon Protects eyesight, it contains an antioxidant Zeaxanthin which protects the macular of the eye.

(8) Golden melon prevents constipation, it is in rich fiber which is known to ease constipation and also reduces the risk of colon cancer.

(9) It is a source of B vitamins- Thiamin and Niacin; these are important anti-oxidants that keep your system toxin free.

(10) Golden melon contains no Carbohydrates and zero cholesterol which means diabetic and hypertensive patients can enjoy it as well.

(11) Golden melon contains calcium; a mineral which is important for building healthy bones and teeth.

(12) Golden melon helps to prevent Anemia, it is rich in folate which is required in the production of red blood cells in our body; consumption of Golden melon will therefore help in the prevention of anemia.

N:B Picking golden melon at the market has been like lotto lottery for me, sometimes i hit the mark and get really tasty ones while sometimes they are not so delicious, am sure i will get the hang of picking the really sweet ones very soon. But if you pick one that is bland and not so tasty don’t give up they are not all like that.

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How often should you wash your Hands?


Hand washing is one of the cheapest health promotion behaviors and according to the  global hygiene council you should wash your hands at least more than six times in a day.

Many of us do not wash our hands before eating especially when we are outside the comfort of our homes, Hand washing is the most basic and cost effective health measure for preventing food borne diseases, such as diarrhea, and respiratory infections such as, influenza, all you need is a running tap and soap.

We are in an era where a lot of diseases are emerging or rather there is an increase in  occurrence of these diseases than in the past for example the incidence of Ebola  Lassa fever and most recently cholera outbreak in west africa, and some other parts ot the world.

These emerging diseases calls for affordable and cost effective means of illness prevention.



  • Before eating any food, especially those eaten with hands e.g. chips, fruits etc.
  • After eating
  • After using the rest room: ladies even if you only used the rest room to adjust your make up, wash your hands before leaving the ladies.
  • Before preparing a meal.
  • After handling raw meat, fish or poultry.
  • Before feeding a child.
  • After changing a baby’s diaper.
  • After touching animals.
  • Wash your hands or use a hand antiseptic before and after tending to a sick person.




  • Wet your hands.
  • Apply soap.
  • Lather and rub hands quite vigorously.
  • Wash both palms and outer hands.
  • Count at least 20 seconds before rinsing.
  • Dry hands on clean towel or paper towel.


If you are always on the go, there might not be water or soap for you to carry out hand washing before eating but you can use alcohol hand rubs or hand sanitizers as they are often called. They are quiet handy and are as effective as hand washing.


Some of us fancy road side foods(  Hot dogs ,suya, Roasted plantain, boiled corn etc.) after purchasing these foods using hand sanitizer before eating them prevents us from transfering germs and microbes from our hands to the food thus preventing infection and saves  us time, money and trips to the hospital.


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7 destructive mindset that steals your success

How we think largely determines our destiny. Our wealth, our status, our success is born in our minds. That’s why it is vital to get rid of the destructive mindsets that steal your success. And the best part? Anyone can do it. Because anyone can Turn their life into a success even if they think…

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True Satisfaction: How to get all your needs met.


Life is full of many treasures and acquiring them has always been man’s goal, the main reason why we pursue these treasures (cars, houses, relationships etc) is because they come with promises of making us happy. But do they really make us happy?


Take delight in the lord and he will give you your heart’s desires. Psalm 37:4

Some of us might have experienced situations where everything is great in our lives our bills are paid, we have food to eat, good clothes to wear. we probably just acquired something we have always wanted but for a split moment we realize that we feel empty and it’s like there is a huge hole in our hearts that needs filling and most of us  go out of our way to get things and people to feel that vacuum. 

For single guys or ladies they may decide that the vacuum is caused by a lack of an intimate relationship in their lives and hence you hear statements like I feel incomplete, but before long they find out that people and things can never complete us only God can.


 Come everyone who thirsts, come to the water; and he who has no money, come, buy and  eat! Come; buy wine and milk without money and without price. Isaiah 55:1

Remember the Samaritan woman who had been married five times and was co-habiting with a man, what exactly was she looking for? Take a good guess, fulfillment! She was looking for something no human, man or woman could give her and that’s why Jesus offered her living water so that she would thirst no more. Jesus recognized her need, she was thirsty for completion and satisfaction and Jesus offered it to her.

My victory and honor from God alone. He is my refuge, a rock where no enemy can reach me.       Psalm 62:7

Achievements are great but they don’t give everlasting satisfaction, many times I have found myself striving to get a lot of things a new phone, dress , top grades and when I do get these things am happy for a while and then I discover that something else is bothering me and tries to steal my happiness. But my happiest moment have been at times where I have great fellowship with God such that no matter what is happening in my life I have peace within me because I no God is my source and that his love for me never fails.

But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.  John 4:14

And that how the cookie crumbles people, nothing can give you everlasting happiness, only God can fill that large vacuum in our lives because it’s so big you need something greater than the vacuum to fill it.




Understanding Love



         Ye judge after the flesh, I judge no man. John 8:15


Guilt, shame and remorse are  feelings experienced by normal people when they feel they have done something wrong or are not acting in a reasonable way. For the average Joe you see on the street on the path to self-destruction, they know they are on a dangerous path so they really don’t need you to point fingers at them or whisper when they pass by you.

People behave the way they do for a particular reason, there are lots of damaged people out there who out of hurt, bitterness and rebellion go about like they don’t care. They are sarcastic, angry and difficult to get along with. But if you take time to get to know them you will find out they are just sad people in need of love and affirmation.

What are our responsibilities to such people whether they are loved ones, co-workers or neighbors:



Unconditional love has always been one of the best ways to show people around you that you value them above their misconduct. Unconditional love is not about ignoring people’s misconduct but rather approaching them from a love point of view.



“Whenever you feel like criticizing any one just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.” F.Scott Fitzgerald

Sometimes try to put your-self in the other person shoes, how do your think you would have reacted to the experience that person had. E.g. A man in your neighborhood lost his wife and child in a car crash, two months later he started drinking heavily and disturbs the neighborhood whenever he gets drunk. This carried on for years that even families that are new in that environment have had to call the authorities several time to arrest him for the disturbances. My point is, it is very easy for you to judge another human being without knowing the root cause of their problem.



For a lot of us who have loved ones who are a pain in the butt, I totally understand what it’s like. I have a brother who has behaviors that are frustrating for not only me but the rest of my family. At a certain point I realized I couldn’t change him and that if I was to expect change I need only pray for him and be patient. Surprisingly he did show improvement in his behavior he was less domineering and aggressive.



“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners.” 

     Laurence Sterne.

I know there is a phrase that says, “Respect is not demanded but earned” but we still need to respect those around us even if they don’t deserve it. It makes them feel loved and valued. For example you should still  greet the cranky old man or woman on your street who always hauls insults at people. Treat people with respect always, I can remember a scene from the movie pretty woman where Julia Roberts was sent out of a store because she didn’t look like someone who could afford their clothes. Many of us are like that, we treat people based on how they look without getting to know them.



It has often been said that the most judgmental people are often people who are insecure and are the biggest critics of themselves. Love can only come from within, if you don’t love and accept who you are, you will find it difficult to love others or tolerate their flaws.

I have a related post  Understanding Mercy

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How Pain Helps Us Evolve

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.james1:2”

Pain is an excruciating feeling, there are different kinds of pain, the pain of watching a loved one battle with a chronic illness like cancer, the pain of failing after trying so hard, the pain of a break up or divorce. Some events carry more pain than others; pain has the ability to put the human spirit down but in the end if we can overcome them we come out victorious.

Watching an episode of one of my favorite TV series the Big Bang Theory one of the series character Sheldon cooper made an insightful statement “pain is evolutionary. Many people would testify that pain teaches us more things than we can hope for; people have risen from failure, poverty and all kinds of pain to become better people. Remember suffering also builds character

Like a little child learning what is good and bad, pain teaches even the immature what to avoid, imagine a child that touches a hot object and withdraws from the pain the child learns to not touch such object in future. Humans as a race have used disease outbreaks, famine and natural disasters to improve the choices they make and protect themselves from such disasters.

Even the bible teaches us to rejoice even in pain,

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.james1:2”


1) We have seen many artist perform better when they feel hurt, Taylor swift sings better songs each time she is heartbroken, same goes for Adele and many other successful artist

2) ln business adversity helps you become a better entrepreneur, you learn what risks to take and which ones to avoid.

3) In relationships no matter how painful breakups might be they tell us what we are doing wrong and how to adjust ourselves to become better partners.

4) In academics, failing a course can be devastating but if you stay strong and focused you would discover your areas of weakness and use it to improve yourself.

5) In personal growth, pain and suffering helps you become more aware of yourself and your environment.

6) In sports, athletics or anything worth pursuing in life the pain of failure and rejection has helped people realign their purpose and what matters most to them.

Pain is only useful as a tool towards success and personal development when it is channeled into positive energy but pain also has negative outcomes such as alcohol abuse, depression and anger. Life should be pleasing and full of joy but sometimes we face pain, sadness and rejection, what we chose to do with these feelings is what matters the most.

Stay blessed.

Walking The Talk



“Words do less than 10 things, but actions do more than 10 thousand things. Leaders don’t talk in vain; they follow with actions.” Israelmore Ayivor


Talk is cheap goes the popular saying, unless you are an MC or standup comedian who gets paid to talk, then just saying things you will do and not acting on them can kill your chances of ever achieving your dreams. It is common for ambitious people to verbalize their dreams to their family and friends and possible prospective investors but the real trick comes in pursuing those ideas no matter the obstacles one might encounter.


If you observe closely everyone has some sort of  dream they will like to achieve or the next big idea but the question is are they willing to pay the price to see these dreams come to reality, many people give up on dreams when the road to achieving those dreams get rough or after they have had several setbacks.



Since this is a new year, you can have a fresh start; here are 6 ways to walk the talk.

  • Write down your dreams or ambitions, don’t just say it put it in ink and paper (a journal preferable).


  • Expect setbacks not failure, success by chance or at first trial are rare but if it happens to you then congratulations.


  • Expect hard work, someone once said people run away from opportunities because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. If you want to be successful be prepared to serve the time necessary.


  • Be accountable, have a mentor or someone who has achieved success in the area you are pursuing and seek their advice and counsel.


  • Be courageous, take a step towards achieving your dreams, I have tried it, it was scary at first but it paid off in the end. Sign up for that class, invest in that business etc. No one ever achieves anything by doing nothing.


  • Believe, be optimistic, be positive, have faith, the need for these can never be over emphasized.


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For I know the thoughts I think towards you, thoughts of good and peace, not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11

I was made for more.

I   was made for more than acquiring luxury.

I was made for more than marriage.

I was made for more than obtaining degrees.

I was made for an assignment.

The creature earnestly awaits my manifestation.

I am a letter sent from heaven.

The world is eager to read me.

I will not be a closed, hidden letter.

I shall be read on the hills.

I shall illuminate my world.

I was made for a greater purpose.

I was made for more.