Enjoying Singleness

 

Contrary to popular opinion being single is not an unpleasant thing, I can hear your inner voice saying NA so!Ok maybe singleness can be a crappy state of mind especially if what you are looking for is a beautiful loving relationship.

If you are that person waiting for the perfect one, well singleness might seem like a trap, it might feel depressing especially if you don’t want to settle for less than your expectations in a partner, thanks to Bella 9ja and all kinds of social networks, it seems like everyone around you is getting married except you. Have no fear my friend help is on its way, here are 3 rules that would help you enjoy singleness.

 

RULE 1: YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN SINGLE

You have always been single from the day you were born, you are an individual whether you have a twin or not, so see yourself as complete and whole identify who you are. This helps you when you are in a relationship so you don’t have identity crisis  when the other individual tries to change your values and belief system .Enjoy your own company be able to go out on your own and have fun or stay indoors watch a good movie or read a good book

 

RULE 2: IDENTIFY THE REASON YOU ARE STILL SINGLE

Identifying the reason you are still single helps your self-esteem, but most importantly it stops you from allowing friends, family, society and even yourself from putting pressure on you. For example we live in a harsh economic dispensation, it’s Like the new America where everyone has to be on top their game, having a university Degree is no longer enough to climb up high the career ladder, young men and women want to be more educated so they can get jobs that pay better which equals spending more time in school or chasing your career. Bottom line you want to be financially capable before starting a family.

You could also be single because you haven’t found the right person for you, that’s ok marriage is a life-long commitment and you should take your time when choosing a partner. Another reason an individual could still be single is because they feel they are just not ready to commit yet. This happens mostly to guys, Oga take your time don’t allow a woman drag you into a contract that you would both feel miserable about later, (you too don’t turn her to lord of the rings, state the purpose of you relationship with her from the beginning).

 

RULE 3:   PLACE VALUE ON YOURSELF

“Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.    Zoe Kravitz

Self-love is important, remember the biblical saying ‘love your neighbor as you love yourself,’ emphasis on LOVE YOURSELF. It is only when you love yourself that  you can truly love another human being  place value on who you are as a person, you might not be the smartest person alive or the most talented individual but if you value yourself , you will not settle for less than you deserve, you will not compromise your beliefs and values. Your happiness and joy would not be dependent on another human being and you and your future partner would be better for it.

 

Have you ever thought of going on a long vacation or traveling and exploring a country of interest, when you are single you can go on trips like this without worrying about kids or a husband/wife. It is the best time to  explore different sides of yourself and learn (although learning is a life time process) , it is also the time to give complete focus and commitment to your career, education, hobbies and other interest, don’t spend the time you should have been doing something productive feeling sorry for your single state. When you are in a relationship or starting a family your attention is divided and you might not be able to focus completely.

Till my next post remember you are worth a lot be bold, be beautiful and confident.

 

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