“Everyone should be respected as an individual, but no one idolized.” Albert Einstein
They say respect is reciprocal true, across all races, cultures, sex or age groups a desire for respect is common. We all want to be respected and valued but do we offer the people around us the same courtesy.
Here are five ways you could disrespect people
(1) NOT RESPECTING PEOPLES’ BOUNDARIES OR WISHES
“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners.”
Having attended a boarding school and living in the hostel as a student in the university, one thing I have learnt is to give people their personal space, if someone says nobody should use my bucket or nobody should use my stuffs without my permission I think its sheer courtesy to actually obey their wishes, these does not mean you are afraid of them but rather that you are willing to make room for their wishes.
Some people do not like to be touched, everyone has boundaries especially when cohabiting with others whether it is being in a student hostel or living with your siblings, if someone says don’t wear my clothes, use or go through my things without my permission, respect their wishes.
(2) LOOKING DOWN ON PEOPLE
“I speak to everyone in the same way whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”
Everyone around you has a quota to contribute, someone has to drive you around (e.g. public transportation) and someone has to sell newspapers or deliver your mail. All these people are relevant to you because they supply your needs in form of Goods and services. You being a managing director or CEO does not mean you should look down on others within or outside where you work.
“A person is a person no matter how small.” Dr Seuss
It’s too easy to feel you are better than the next person, when you see people who are not up to your standard, how do you treat them, do you treat them with disdain or respect. It’s true there can be no equal society but there are equal rights and everyone is entitled to a little respect.
(3) INTIMIDATING PEOPLE
No one likes to be bullied, for example when you intimidate people especially in a work place environment, what you are saying is the people who you work with or supervise are incompetent and incapable of doing their work unless you push them around like puns on a chess board. And sometimes intimidating people comes from a place of deep insecurity where you believe to get respect you have to be intimidating to others. This behavior does not show value or respect for those around you be it friends, family or co-workers.
(4) MANIPULATING OTHERS
Everyone likes to be the smartest guy in the room but being the smartest guy in the room doesn’t mean you should use it to hurt others. There are different kinds of manipulations, some use tears and emotions to get people to do what they want, others use tricky and the list is endless. If you want something come out straight and ask for it no one wants to be used. And if you are rejected, walk away like an honorable person.
(5) NOT RESPECTING PEOPLES OPINION OR CHOICES
“Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the difference that make each of us unique.”
Everyone has a right to his or her opinion; one of the greatest forms of respect is to see the next human as rational and capable of having their own belief system. Am not saying you have to agree with what they believe in but when you tear down people for their views you demoralize them, rather if you have an argument with the way someone around you acts or the things they believe in, just present your case to them and if they don’t listen let them be.
If we value ourselves we ought to value others, as much as possible present and conduct your-self in a manner worthy of respect, irrespective of your social status, gender, religion,race or culture.
Thanks for reading this post, if there are other ways people do not show respect feel free to leave a comment and contribute to this post.
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